How do you feel about Valentines? How do you cope with it?
It seems the answer very much depends on whom you ask. Throughout our lives we might have had an evolving relationship with both the concept and consequences of Valentines ~ much like that of Santa, Bank Holidays and Mothering Sunday. As we grow, so does the connotations and expectations. Perhaps the wisest answer would be to make some kind of peace with it whatever our circumstances. Then our circumstances do not define us, we define them…at least as much as it is possible to do so.
For many, it is a day to be endured with a resigned humiliation and loneliness ~a familiar experience of missing out and the rest of the world being all happiness and hope. For those receiving unwanted attention, it is particularly demanding as everything is turned upside down in the perpetual quest for just a bit of peace. For those enduring grief or betrayal, it is very tough. Please let us remember those souls when we walk past the cards and the gifts.
Smugness is not a pleasant word ~ so let not an inch of it touch you ~ if you are blessed with a beloved then appreciate quietly. Keep your souls connected in whatever manner is befitting and don’t let commercialism dictate your desires. Know that a bit of commercialism is helping keep someone be employed.
Like all things in life, the more measured our decisions the better the outcome. Indeed, to live well we need to love well. We need to count our blessings and be the blessing. We create our own successes, just us, no one else. If there is just a bit of magic in your day, rejoice with gusto.
Perhaps one of the most helpful things I have ever read suggested that we rename Valentine’s Day ~ Friendship Day and to cherish every soul who is our good friend. That would be a win-win for everyone and I rather like the sound of that so…Happy Friendship Day my precious pals. With great love, Rebecca.
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